I am sick of being bitter and feeling like I’m drained dry and not being loved well. — I am sick of being bitter and feeling like I’m drained dry and not being loved well. Do you remember the ‘Marry/Boff/Kill’ game? You list three celebrities or historical figures and figure out who would be most pleasant to spend life with, who you’d most like to “boff” (possibly the world’s best word for sex) and who most deserves killing. Like, say you list Napoleon, Queen Elizabeth…

“As long as I can remember I have never liked Mother’s Day,” says Alison Hunsicker, a full-time homemaker and caregiver to her disabled… — The MOTHER of All Holiday Triggers: It's OK Not to Feel Celebratory on Mother's Day - THE SEAM "As long as I can remember I have never liked Mother's Day," says Alison Hunsicker, a full-time homemaker and caregiver…www.the-seam.com “As long as I can remember I have never liked Mother’s Day,” says Alison Hunsicker, a full-time homemaker and caregiver to her disabled husband, with four children, ages seventeen to thirty-two. “Even when I communicate my expectations to my partner and our children, the day falls short. The worst year…

My History of Mental Illness and Health. — My History of Mental Illness and Health. This was a while back. My hair isn’t blue and white anymore, but that tight, defensive look on my face apparently is how I always look(?) because I’ve now had two separate therapists tell me I appear stricken when I’m feeling calm. Cool…

As I learn more about authenticity and vulnerability I realize how good I am at reflecting other people’s sunshine back onto them and… — As I learn more about authenticity and vulnerability I realize how good I am at reflecting other people’s sunshine back onto them and sitting with them in their darkness, but how rarely I ask for anyone to engage with me in my sunshine or shadow. I tend to serve and…

DOES ANYONE ELSE HAVE A LOUD MEAN GIRL IN THEIR HEAD?? — DOES ANYONE ELSE HAVE A LOUD MEAN GIRL IN THEIR HEAD?? I recently completed an 8 week writing seminar where they send you a daily prompt and set you up with a partner (that rotates weekly) and you write twelve minutes off the prompt and email it to each other…

As I walked out of the house, I hollered, “K, bye, going to Sephora to get all my fancy lady supplies” and my husband called back, “I think… — As I walked out of the house, I hollered, “K, bye, going to Sephora to get all my fancy lady supplies” and my husband called back, “I think it’s Ulta you want. Sephora is just perfume.” So I was off to a good start. I’ve recently been trying to FEEL…

On being ‘Wanted’ Versus ‘Wantable,’ and ‘Loved’ Versus ‘Lovable’ — On being ‘Wanted’ Versus ‘Wantable,’ and ‘Loved’ Versus ‘Lovable’ So, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about sense of self/empowerment/sexiness (see previous swaths of posts). I’m obsessing on this because it’s all tied in with our confidence and creativity, ambition, vulnerability, and relationships, too. …

Spoiler alert: No. — Spoiler alert: No. I was recently interviewing a sex therapist out of Los Angeles for an article I’m writing. I like to drop this into all my conversations because it makes me sound SO COOL, and because it was such an enlightening and positive conversation. I want to to discuss…

Last week I competed in my eighth or ninth NYCMidnight writing contest. I really enjoy them and have learned a lot over the years writing… — Last week I competed in my eighth or ninth NYCMidnight writing contest. I really enjoy them and have learned a lot over the years writing short stories and screenplays under their timed model. You get a certain number of days to write a certain length piece with provided genre and…