Recently my husband and I had a big ol’ fight about the fact that he exists at the same time that I exist, in the same home, and how I annoying I find that. ;) Basically, one day I had the house to myself to write (working on my second…

Why are we the way we are? As in, why do we perceive things in our minds like we do and then respond to them how we do? Clearly, some of it is willful, but much of it is because of factors like where we’re from and how we were…

I thought it was just me. It’s never just me. A friend of mine sent me a message last night saying that she has gained weight and is larger than the last time we saw her. It was a warning, an apology of sorts, getting ahead of the shock we…

In a way, I think it made it easier when I myself got sick, too, because then I could just lie down and stay stoned on NyQuil while the hours rolled on by, instead of being fully conscious of the filthy house and all the parenting and lost productivity. Getting…

This week, COVID finally hit us. We’ve been as cautious as we reasonably could be, but you know, COVID’s like honey badger; it don’t care. We somehow narrowly escaped its thorny grasp for over two years, despite moving, traveling, the kids being in school, Robb going to work, me going…

I am sick of being bitter and feeling like I’m drained dry and not being loved well. Do you remember the ‘Marry/Boff/Kill’ game? You list three celebrities or historical figures and figure out who would be most pleasant to spend life with, who you’d most like to “boff” (possibly the world’s best word for sex) and who most deserves killing. Like, say you list Napoleon, Queen Elizabeth…

The MOTHER of All Holiday Triggers: It's OK Not to Feel Celebratory on Mother's Day - THE SEAM "As long as I can remember I have never liked Mother's Day," says Alison Hunsicker, a full-time homemaker and caregiver…www.the-seam.com “As long as I can remember I have never liked Mother’s Day,” says Alison Hunsicker, a full-time homemaker and caregiver to her disabled husband, with four children, ages seventeen to thirty-two. “Even when I communicate my expectations to my partner and our children, the day falls short. The worst year…

My History of Mental Illness and Health. This was a while back. My hair isn’t blue and white anymore, but that tight, defensive look on my face apparently is how I always look(?) because I’ve now had two separate therapists tell me I appear stricken when I’m feeling calm. Cool…

As I learn more about authenticity and vulnerability I realize how good I am at reflecting other people’s sunshine back onto them and sitting with them in their darkness, but how rarely I ask for anyone to engage with me in my sunshine or shadow. I tend to serve and…